(You'll have to read on to find out about THAT picture!) Sorry to have been out of touch for so long, it's been a busy week. My Dad and Mary arrived late Tuesday night and Annie arrived Wednesday mid-day. Adam and Chris joined us for dinner on Wednesday afternoon but spent Thanksgiving with Ladylove's family. (They're heading off to West Virginia this morning to meet Sidra's mother and step-father for the first time). It's so good to be surrounded by family, the house fills up with love all buzzing around Mom. She's had a comfortable week, but hasn't felt much like partaking in any festivities. We've had some good walks which she definitely looks forward to and wants every day. Several times, as there was hustle and bustle and as meals were taking place, we asked her if she wanted to come and join in, sit in her wheelchair in the kitchen or with us while we're eating or anything at all... but she always declined. She is seeming a bit more withdrawn and less engaged this week, maybe it's just not noticeable with more people around. We've all noticed it's a bit harder to get a smile out of her, she's wanting to be in her own quiet most of the time. She spends most time in her bed with her soothing music on, and spends some time n her chair with a movie on or with the soothing music station on in the background. Usually movies seem to make her eyes heavy and she falls asleep. She is making better use of medication to help her not feel so frustrated and restless, so I'm sure it's partly due to that.
We were able to have a beautiful Thanksgiving dinner, thanks mostly to Mary and my Dad cooking everything! We were all able to give thanks for our togetherness and for this incredible family love. We were able to remember Dave and hope that he's resting peacefully (although Annie maintains that he's up in Heavin "shaking things up" up there!) He's certainly alive and well within this family and we had lots of good memories of him. It's always hard to know how Mom is coping with the loss of him. I think she's mostly afraid to delve into any more sadness than what is on her plate any any given moment. I think she also stops herself from crying when she can because she can't really manage the tears and stuffy nose very well without help. First holiday for Annie without her Dad, we're glad she could be here with us. We're hoping to do some bridesmaid dress shopping while she's here (she's getting married in April!).
Family silliness is always good for keeping the mood light... Adam is especially good at that. At one point, as my Dad was remembering how silly Howie Mandel used to be with the latex glove over his head... Adam decided to give that a try... stretching it over his bald head and blowing through his nose to inflate the fingers like a cockscomb. While we don't recommend anyone try this at home, it was great for a laugh! Unfortunately, these are the depths to which we stoop during these desperate times!
Dad and Mary are driving back to Vermont this morning and Annie will be here until Sunday. Aunt Martha will visit on Saturday. Hope you've all had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday with your families.
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